So Far, So Good
There are days when I don’t know what I’m doing, and there are days when I have beautiful highs and unbearably horrible lows. There are days when all I want is to be “ungotten” and “out.” 2023 was an experience. It truly was, and now that I think back on it, I did relish every second of it. It was all a process, and even though there were times when I felt lost and bewildered, I’m happy and grateful to have gone through it. I gained amazing connections and acquired knowledge that has helped me so far. Along with the journey, let’s go. Take a seat back and imagine us having one of those coffee talks.
Hi, Techie! It has been 16 amazing reads together! What a year. Thank you for sticking this far. It’s really astonishing to me. My initial target was an average of 30 medium followers by the end of the year and we have 180+ of YOU. That’s exciting. A habit I’ve always had is to sit and review my year. Consider this read as one of those that is packed with discussions and perhaps even some lessons. (Pro-tip: read this while listening to Sondae’s new album, Diary Entry).
Everyone has those late-night thoughts where you suddenly want to have your life all figured out. I had one of those in January. Quite frankly, I just wanted to have a sense of direction. 2022 was super rough, it was a “God thinks I’m one of His strongest warriors” moment (crazy stuff). I had always been “in tech” but it felt as if I wasn’t as big as people imagined I did help people transition into the tech space but it felt repetitive and I wasn’t impacting anyone on a large scale. So, I decided to have all my words in a place for consistency and more reach. I sat and created a sketch of how I wanted my year to go. It seemed so huge saying you want over 500x your then income and better brand equity but looking back now, I should have made my target a lot bigger.
People say heartbreak gives you focus after all the pain. I think I agree with that to a level. It was an “I better prove a point” drive at first but it became a part of me. People think practically impossible to go far if you aren’t from a “made” home. Well, here’s proof you can be anything you want with God and smart work. I had always wanted to speak at events but I just didn’t know how to go about it. It’s not like I have a huge number of followers (at least not yet) but I still wanted to speak at at least one event. So, I worked on being valuable and so far, I’ve spoken at over 20 events both in-person and virtually just this year. The point is, that you have to dig deep to find your WHY. And fun fact, it’s not so hard to do this.
Here’s a starter, ask yourself who you are, where you want to be, and how you want to get there. The hard part is you have to be brutally honest with yourself. Don’t fake it. When you have these answers, act on them. It will be hard but it will all make sense eventually.
Investing in relationships is equally important. I had days when I was drained and tired and I got comfortable with not achieving my goals it just seemed too hard but I had people who had my back. Having someone(or people like your support system) who genuinely care(s) and is so invested is a huge blessing. My baby Jojo is the best and I’m probably the luckiest girl. I remember him saying something about 2023 being great both as a person and financially and God knows I was so upset but I’m grateful I have someone who reminds me not to settle. Blossom is one of the best Content Marketers(she helped with clarity on Content creation) I know. To my family for always listening to my rants, breakdowns, and everything, I’m super duper grateful. And other amazing people in my circle, I’m truly blessed. If you struggle with getting opportunities, it’s time you start investing in relationships.
Life is beautiful when you have some sort of clarity. You don’t have to have it all figured out but just knowing what you want and where you want to be and taking action is just enough. I personally want a soft life as a tech sis who retires early to focus on family and 7 or more amazing kids and that’s why I work super hard (no judgement abeg). To be the best at what I do and to enjoy it while I’m at it. So, I ask you once more, Who are you, and where do you want to be?
I’ve started working on my board for 2024, something to give a visual of what it ought to look like and I think you should too. Tech or not, you have to find your feet and everything has to make sense. It just has to.
A great year was had and I’m thrilled for the next adventure that awaits. Talk soon, Techie.
